(Stiffed The Betrayal of the American Man) PDF DOWNLOAD ✓ Susan Faludi
Book and that this was A So Called Booming Economy so called booming economy was making men feel this way It s little surprise that these feelings broke out into the mainstream after a horrific recession Her men try religion going to war working with their hands working in pornos losing themselves in sports fandom writing action books but no matter what they try they feel like they are less of a man than their father s generation since they are playing by the same assumptions and rules that really don t apply to them There is no longer a common enemy to nite against and the ones they come From Beautiful Zion to Red Bird Creek up with don tite work the way Nazis did On top of that loyalty is a fool s game in modern corporate America and factory jobs can barely get you a living wage The men are trapped in an ideology with no easy way out and are therefore susceptible to demagoguery that promises easy fixes and yes common enemies to rally against Faludi warns Sex, Rock Optical Illusions us about the trap and discusses solutions to the problem Perhaps men can start asking hardestions and reach down deep within themselves and see that they aren t so different than feminists after all They are both trapped in fake gender roles that are impossible to fulfill and are egged on by a consumerist society of marketing that promises them that attaining manhood or femininity is just a purchase away It will be the toughest battle yet but what if the struggling man stops looking for easy answers and slips his way out of the trap and instead of judging himself by how many pterodactyls he whacks with his club before dragging them home for his wife to cook he actualizes himself in a humanist project that transcends gender and thereby would also remove himself as an obstacle in the struggle for female euality Or he could just stay bitter put on a red cap and try to vote his way into a past that never existed For men and women alike Faludi asks a powerful From Mistress to Wifey uestionWhy haven t men stoodp to a cultural stereotype and the culture it supports which is systematically destroying them economically and by default emasculating them in the most heinous of manipulations encouraging them to blame themselves Her investigation is thorough actually compassionate and supportive of healthy masculinity she painstakingly details and profiles the many ways that modern American cor It s an interesting book and a compassionate one too but it s ltimately a failure to me For a book whose title proclaims it to be about a betrayal it spends very little time on the subject of the betrayers concentrating instead on the problems of the betrayed Not that these problems are not real or worthy of study just that this is a book about symptoms not causes Indeed even its diagnosis of symptoms is incompleteFaludi repeatedly fails to come to grips with the how and why of the title s betrayal This is a book about two generations of men baby boomers #and gen x ers It conspicuously fails to interrogate the men who were these men s fathers and grandfathers or to #gen x ers It conspicuously fails to interrogate the men who were these men s fathers and grandfathers or to why they did what they did It shies away any time it gets close to portraying the true villains who get to remain mostly faceless corporate and government functionaries as if downsizing and asset stripping are merely weather conditions whose cause cannot be guessed at The fact that with one exception rags to riches story Sly Stallone every rich man who appears in this book is shown to be callous and duplicitous apparently fails to register on Faludi who talks in the conclusion of the men s struggle as being different from the women s primarily in lacking an easily identifiable enemy On the contrary the enemy is identified several times in the book but Faludi apparently fails to recognise him every timeThat said if you want to read about how the last few decades worth of social and economic trends have affected a somewhat representative sample of American men this is your book But this is a book that raises estions than provides answers and I d like it a lot if I didn t get the nagging feeling that the lack of answers is due to a certain Dance With The Devil unwillingness on the author s part to think too deeply about theestions Faludi almost outdid Backlash The Undeclared War Against American Women here documenting the way brutal sex role stereotypes caught p to the XY chromosomes of the species The betrayal is that men thought
They D Becomecivilized Edu.d becomecivilized edu. MarkNow in Stiffed the author turns her attention to the masculinity crisis plaguing our culture at the end of the '90s an era of massive layoffs Angry White Male politics and Million Man marches As much as the culture wants to proclaim that men are made miserable or brutal or violent or irresponsible by their inner nature and their hormones Faludi finds that even in the world they supposedly own and run men are at the mercy of cultural forces that disfigure their lives and destroy their chance at happiness As traditional masculinity continues to col. ,
Cated fine manners damn even eual household duties but the #culture wanted Macho Men The military demanded it and the way US society pitted individuals against each other rewarded the #wanted Macho Men The military demanded it and the way US society pitted individuals against each other rewarded the guyI did a workshop on gender stereotypes in an elementary school right outside of Hanover NH home of Dartmouth College so was a mix of professors and professional class kids and working class ones A father came p to me afterward and loudly hissed don t go feminizing my boy because I discussed cultural expectations that still tracked men into STEM careers and women into the helping ones I even argued that maybe that was a good thing we tout female MDs yet 90% were in five main areas OBGYN Peds Fam Psychiatry Gerontology No problem right Salary five years after internship had men with almost double average salaries because they went into the specialities instead of the helping areas Maybe it s good for society to sex role stereotype we have to ask our studentsFaludi hits home on how our culture make men obsess about their physical appearance and shape as much as women some time now There is terrific Tough Guise Violence Media and the Crisis in Masculinity and I ve seen amazing pictures that don t lie right of the most famous boy s toy doll GI Joe where the line of each decades iteration from the 1960s to the 2000s as I recall had Mattel produce the best seller boy doll with obvious and grotesue larger and bulkier chests and forearms By the doll of the 2000s it s a wonder as if those soldiers were real they may likely be incapable of bending over to tie their own shoes We need men as aggressive robots violent monstersThis has precious little to do with sex differences in brain or body but popularlay science would have s believe differently Faludi makes her case via storytelling anecdotes woven through with history It s well written and flows it s not boring sociology or impersonal statistics I read this way back in 2000 I think yet three of the chapter vignettes have stuck with me vividly 15 years later 1 So Cal lower middle class suburbia Lakewood I think gone all wrong and rapey2 the pathetic yet poignant jerking around of Cleveland Browns fans and the whole Ravens drama3 dismay and depression caused by post Cold War nemployment and status deflation of white collar defense workers in California In these and other journalistic case studies Faludi draws out her core thesis If I remember correctly Since the WWII era many men s roles in American society went from productive meaningful work to roles based on status peacocking and even ornament A superficial machismo based on nonproductive consumption even in some cases being an anti feminist dick began to compete with the old fashioned ideal of the good provider True the good provider role had its problems in practice it often reinforced so called benevolent sexism Nevertheless at least the role was theoretically based on supporting others In its most ideal form it was a norm of pro social contribution and even group solidarity rather than tenuous individual status seeking and display Stoic not braggy producing not consuming Obviously the book s reportage is from the 1990s but I suspect that Faludi s depiction of middle aged white guy frustration and the sulky entitled young manchild would hold p today The only difference is there may be less excuse for not having made any adjustments in the intervening 16 years I was pretty young when I read it so a lot of post WW2 thru 90s American history was new to me I may or may not find it as rigorous today Also I don t remember whether it mostly focused on white folks or if it covered a diversity of experiences so caveat lector and all that At any rate a persuasive yet sympathetic case from a feminist that hypercapitalism and sexism are bad for men too This is a beautifully written book about masculinity in America I credit this book with sparking my interest in gender studies and American Studies Faludi is able to weave seemingly disparate narratives into a compelling story of in gender studies and American Studies Faludi is able to weave seemingly disparate narratives into a compelling story of industrialization economic insecurity and little change in gender expectations have hurt both men and women This is an incredible book I strongly advise reading it Faludi an award winner journalist and feminist takes a compassionate and honest look
Into The Condition Ofthe condition of American male This is a great Lapse the once valued male attributes of craft loyalty and social tility are no longer honored much less rewardedFaludi's journey through the modern masculine landscape takes her into the lives of individual men whose accounts reveal the heart of the male dilemma Stiffed brings s into the world of industrial workers sports fans combat veterans evangelical husbands militiamen astronauts and troubled bad boys whose sense that they've lost their skills jobs civic roles wives teams and a secure future is only one symptom of a larger and historic betray.